Recently, I take notice of many problems related to friendship. I suddenly realize that friendship is very important to somebody, which is more important than I thought ever.
Why are people anxious about their friendship? There are two main reasons. One reason is loneliness which may make a person to pay too much attention to one’s friendship, and even friends occupy their whole world. Another reason is the lack of confidence which may make a person swayed by considerations of gain and loss. Once they suddenly lose their friends, one day would lose themselves.
Everyone does pay attention to friendship. However, after I meet my friends who are anxious about their friendship, I find that if you overly attach to friendship, you will not happy but distress. “You will be disappointed if you rely on others for your happiness”. The "others" mean any people, who may be your friends, parents, children, lover, everyone…
Surely, you ought to make friends, and you can love your friends. You deserve do everything that your friends need. But you should not lose yourself. Losing friends is not sad, but losing yourself is the real tragedy.
Not only you should find yourself, also you should confide in yourself! Here I would like to advise you not to ask your friends’ love compulsively, but to let your friends come back to you on their own initiative. A quote from a French film, “He who has many friends has no friends.” You should have attraction for your friends. In other words, only if you enrich yourself first, then can you make friends more easily. You should make friends based on your appealing to them, but not on entreaty.
Don’t hope that everyone you know is your friends, friendship should let nature take its course. Jesus said, "Love your friends like your own soul, protect them like the pupil of your eye”. But don’t rely on them, and what is more important, not demand them! In that case, you will enjoy happy time when making friends.
Another tip for sustaining your friendship is a way of “keeping your distance”. No matter how good a friend is, you must respect your friend which is imperative. Many people believe that “between friends all is common”. Some people have no respect for their friends not considered polite. And some mistake and brush can occur between them at the moment. Wish every one find your real friend, and happy every day!